Be careful of being a facade. A person becomes a facade when they have developed this beautifully shallow and fictitious story about their world. On the outside they are never sad or angry, they have the perfect husband and children, and they are the divine experts in their career. But behind the curtains they live in a cesspool of shame, jealousy, manipulation, guilt, resentment, destruction, and hurt. Remember that the key word is developed. They have developed this life with their own tools, skills, will-power and negotiations as opposed to surrendering to the flow of life which is not always an easy journey, but it will always protect and guide you towards the person you are destined to be. We all are guilty of putting some level of a facade up, but it should never become you because it numbs us of the truth, of our feelings, and of life. I don’t know how to completely tear down the facade, but it begins with with reaching out and being less critical of yourself. What I mean by reaching out is that you talk to a professional or someone that you trust so that you don’t have it pent up inside festering. The next way is being less critical of yourself. The best way I can describe how to do this is to be your own best friend. You wouldn’t yell at your best friend for making a mistake or shame them for crying so why do that to yourself. Be kind and gentle to yourself because it allows you reflect and through reflection you can grow and through growth you are able to discover who you are.
Tiffany Bryant is a licensed professional clinical counselor and the author of The Unconventional Habits of Growth which is now available on Amazon at http://amzn.com/1364775514
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